I have read more than my share of self help books but this is the most helpful book I have ever read. It started out slow - in the first pages I was rolling my eyes because I felt like it was simple stuff I already knew, but by page ten I was engrossed and thrilled. It is simple, straightforward, fun reading, it makes complete sense and helps clarify the issues that come up in every kind of relationship, from partners to potential partners, to family and friends. I could not put it down. I had an 'aha' every few pages, found it joyful and affirming and incredibly helpful. When I was halfway through it I bought 8 more copies and gave them to eight friends. They all loved it and have all given copies to their friends and family. I quickly saw my relationships to others and to myself start to change, I actively used the theories to improve my dynamics with others and one day read just one sentence and completely let go of some pain I'd been carrying for days over a conflict with a friend. Poof - it was gone and I was looking at it from a whole new place and learned a lesson I have used again and again since that day. I also re-established contact with a friend who I'd parted ways with years ago and in one easy conversation we came together again resolved the problem, laughed over how big we'd made it and have had a healthier, happier and closer friendship than ever since. I am back today to order 3 more copies for three more people - one of them is the new man in my life whom I feel this book was intrumental in helping me find. I'm choosing differently, approaching things differently and what's more - I'm happier and feel more clear and peaceful about relationships than I ever have. Get this book and a few extras for the people you love - you won't regret it. And grab your highlighter- there are gems on every page.
This book is a light-hearted, whimsical look at love and spirituality and how one goes hand-in-hand with the other. Although the book is not a lengthy one, it does leave the reader contemplating the messages given in the book. The book has the potential to help the reader develop truer, more meaning and lasting relationships because it is based on the compassion and simple truths one encounters in Buddhist philosophy.
The spiritual path one follows in their personal relationships has a direct result on the happiness, peace and contentment one will find in everyday living. In following that enlightened path, we learn a great deal about our own inner self. We cannot rely on others to make us happy; we, and we alone, control our own degree of happiness. The author outlines several behaviours for readers to examine, both in their partner and in their inner self. "If the Buddha Dated" will also help the reader to determine if their relationship is truly based on love or solely based on sexual attraction and infatuation - an excellent point to ponder before entering into a sexual realtionship. This is definitely an enjoyable and insightful book for any age - love and spirituality have no age barriers. May you find eternal and unconditional love in life's journey!